How could "self-help" possibly be violent? *gasp*
I was working with someone the other day and the harshest voice in the room was the voice of "self-help." It was mean. It wasn't what she...
The "Self-Love Myth" is Bullshit
I recently came back from a trip to Colombia with a friend from there. Watching people make plans, reach out, talk about big feelings,...
My childhood was normal + fine so I shouldn't feel like something's wrong with me
I hear this all the time and have 2 things to say right out of the gate. "normal" and "shouldn't" Normal. Our childhood is always our...
What if the Voice in my head is right and I'm a Loser, AND a Fool for not believing it?
While I was talking with an amazing woman in a session yesterday she voiced this concern. "If I stop believing the nasty voice in my...
The elephant in the room (or why talking doesn't work)
I tell you you're awesome and you don't believe me. I tell you you're awesome - one thousand times. Your friend tells you you're awesome...
Should we really fake it till we make it? Amy Cuddy's TED talk
"Your body language shapes who you are." Amy Cuddy presents one of my favourite TED talks. She talks about sticking your arms in the air...
Permission Slips - Don't run over yourself
The following list is from a soap box I was standing on a few years ago. Something a friend and I dreamed of speaking through a megaphone...
Emotional Correctness Over Being PC
Words are important. The words we choose have an impact on others and the culture we are creating. Words aren't everything. They are the...
Mr. Rogers + Marina Abramovic: the radical act of slowing down
What drew people to Mr. Rogers even though he always seemed ridiculously slow to me? Why were people transformed and moved to tears when...
"Am I overreacting?"- You may appreciate a dirty plate metaphor
(Dirty plate metaphor sounds just a bit sexy...do read on. ;) There are those times when someone, especially a special someone, doesn't...
Maybe things are perfect and the problem with affirmations
I had a theatre teacher who, with a giant smile, would say, "perfect!" at the end of just about everything, even when it appeared obvious...
feelingthoughts: the word invented in a Colombian fishing village
There is a coastal community in Colombia, who consider themselves sentipensantes, beings that use both their brain and their heart. (If...